Stephen Kinstle

Obituary of Stephen D. Kinstle

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Stephen D. Kinstle, age 74 of Westmoreland, passed away peacefully at his home on December 16, 2023 after a long illness.

Stephen was born in Utica on December 17, 1948 the son of Donald E. Kinstle and Leitha Mae Shutts, and graduated from Utica Free Academy. He married Pamela J. Wahl on September 30, 1994 in Las Vegas, NV. He worked at Mele Manufacturing with his father, Petti Bone Crains, Special Metals, Globe Mill Venture, CBRE, and Bank of New York Mellon, retiring in February 2019. 

Stephen was an avid bowler with 10 300’s, a 298, a 299, and two 800 series, and especially enjoyed bowling with his best friends, Bink, Ron, and Jack. He was inducted to the Rome Bowling Hall of Fame. He had a love of trains and would tell people all about them. He loved to go to the train station and just watch trains for hours. He fulfilled one of his dreams driving a steam engine and locomotive in Ely, Nevada. He had a love for WWE wrestling in which he just attended a meet and greet in Utica. He enjoyed listening to music and the sound of the guitar gave him goose bumps. He loved concerts, and just recently saw Motley Crue, Alice Cooper and Def Leopard. One of his favorite bands was Pink Floyd which he saw twice. He loved drag racing and met Britney and John Force in Epping, NH. One of his passions for cars was to own a Shelby Super Snake in which he, Pam, and Steve flew to Las Vegas and drove one home after having it custom built.

Most of all, Stephen was a loving husband, father, grandfather, uncle, and friend. He will be greatly missed by his loving service dog, Princess, who brought him great joy.

Stephen leaves behind his devoted wife Pamela; daughter, Kristie (Kristopher) Zajac of Whitesboro; son, Timothy O’Shields of Utica; daughter, Kelly (Rich) Fabrey of Cameron, NC; son, Jason (Kathleen) O’Shields of Ill.; daughter, Lindsey Meus of Rome; grandchildren, Brendon O’Shields, Brittany O’Shields, Joseph (Meg) O’Shields, Jessica (Fran) Meyers, Jeremy Fabrey, Cierra (Caleb) Jacobsen, Tommy O’Shields, Devlin Zajac, Elizabeth Meus, Joseph Farda, and Alexis Smithling; great grandchildren, Lukas Fabrey, Skyler Meyers, Anna Meyers, Ryan Meyers, Frankie Uriah, and Georgie Uriah; several nieces and nephews; and many friends, including one of his best friends and neighbor, Tom. He was predeceased by his son, Lawrence John Meus; best friends, Floyd and Pearl; and dogs, Tootie, Brandi, Sky Dog, Tesha, Bullet, Shadow, Bo and Maggie.

Stephen’s funeral will be held on Thursday, December 21, at 12 Noon, at the Barry Funeral Home, 807 W. Chestnut Street. Burial will be in Carr Cemetery, Marcy. 

Relatives and friends may call at the funeral home on Wednesday, December 20 from 4 to 7 PM. 

In lieu of flowers, Steve would love you to donate to the Human Society of Rome.

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Calling Hours

4:00 pm - 7:00 pm
Wednesday, December 20, 2023
Barry Funeral Home
807 West Chestnut Street
Rome, New York, United States
(315) 337-0055

Funeral Service

12:00 pm
Thursday, December 21, 2023
Barry Funeral Home
807 W. Chestnut Street
Rome, New York, United States


Carr Cemetery
RT 291
Marcy, New York, United States
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